Re: When is family visit too long to stay at your house?
My dad was alone for almost 20 years after my mom died. He used to tell me adamantly that he would NEVER live w/ his children... NEVER be that burdensome parent. Well... as he got older and his options became fewer and fewer... I know he was looking to me to invite him to live w/ me and my 3 daughters. There was no way I could DO it!! At the time, the 3 kids were in school, I was working and going to school full time... and my dad was a nightmare! He was an alcoholic and insisted on cooking... his super-duper inexpensive subsidized apartment had been filled w/ smoke a few times cause he'd put something on the stove/in the oven and forget about it. That apartment should have been great... there were lots of people his age and w/ similar interests around! His drinking and ultimately refusing to take care of himself (bathing, etc) caused him to be kicked out (!!!!) and the only option was a nursing home. It was so hard for me to put him in a home... when the alcohol component was taken out and nursing care put in... he got a lot better. His chronic eczema cleared up and he gained some weight and was healthier. But taking him out for a day a few times made me understand that his alcoholism was always there and there was simply no way he could live w/ us!
Roset... is there any kind of senior housing or assisted living near you? Living NEAR you would be way better than WITH you... even if it's only half the year!
Last edited by luvs2eat; 01-28-2011 at 06:25 AM.
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