How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

[cottun]

I stayed late at work last night to do some charting. I was in a small room next to the nurses station, and the night shift thought I was gone. I overheard a very loud CNA tell a blantant lie about me and another nurse, and call us a nasty name. (Specifically, she had worked on our shift the day before, and she told the staff on her shift "Those 2 hos sat on their [email protected]$! at the desk all night and did NOTHING".)

I was sooooo mad! Not just at being called a "ho", but the other nurse and I run like raped apes from the time we get to work till the time we leave, and we dont have a chance to get anywhere NEAR the desk till its almost time to leave! I have no idea what motive she had for telling such a blatant lie, except that maybe she is a drama-monger.

I went out and confronted her on the matter (so mad I was shaking). She got loud and started acting "tough" in front of her buddies so I ended the conversation. But she caught me alone on the way to the parking lot and apologized over and over and asked if we could be "cool".

The "professional" in me told her that her apology was accepted and that we were "cool". But thats not so! I DONT forgive her and I will never forget, and I will never trust her again and if she ever works my shift again, I will always be suspicious of her. I am NOT quick to forgive and forget! Are you?

[muzette7]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

Nope I am with you, once I hate someone, I just hate em. I just cant get that forgive and forget thing.

[wishingstar]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

Well it was meant for you to hear/know thats for sure!!!! I would have had a condition for her regarding her apology that she admit she was lying to the other nurse in front of you! and I would never be able to tell her we could be cool because that would be a lie as well .....I just have to wonder how she treats the residents?

In this type of situation I would neva trust her again and all but refuse to work with her .......I have found people like that who start probs and lie and fabricate so easily are the ones with a prob and usally will keep going so better to avoid them like the plague they really are!

[nuisance]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

Nope I am with you, once I hate someone, I just hate em. I just cant get that forgive and forget thing.

DITTO. I WOULD BE PROFESSIONAL AROUND THEM, ACT CIVIL. BUT I STILL WOULDN'T WALK ACROSS THE STREET TO PI$$ ON THEM IF THEY WERE ON FIRE!!!

IT TAKES ALOT TO PI$$ ME OFF. I LIKE MOST EVERYONE, BUT ONCE SOMETHING HAPPENS AND I DON'T. I DON'T GO BACK. VERY FEW PEOPLE I TAKE AN INSTANT DISLIKE TO, DH ALWAYS WONDER WHY I WOULDN'T LIKE A CERTAIN PERSON, I'D HAVE NO REASON I JUST DIDN'T THEN LATER THAT PERSON WOULD DO SOMETHING, AND DH WOULD SAY I SEE WHY NOW.




GUESS THAT'S WHY I LIKE ALL OF YA'LL!!!

[chop]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

DITTO. I WOULD BE PROFESSIONAL AROUND THEM, ACT CIVIL. BUT I STILL WOULDN'T WALK ACROSS THE STREET TO PI$$ ON THEM IF THEY WERE ON FIRE!!!

IT TAKES ALOT TO PI$$ ME OFF. I LIKE MOST EVERYONE, BUT ONCE SOMETHING HAPPENS AND I DON'T. I DON'T GO BACK. VERY FEW PEOPLE I TAKE AN INSTANT DISLIKE TO, DH ALWAYS WONDER WHY I WOULDN'T LIKE A CERTAIN PERSON, I'D HAVE NO REASON I JUST DIDN'T THEN LATER THAT PERSON WOULD DO SOMETHING, AND DH WOULD SAY I SEE WHY NOW.




GUESS THAT'S WHY I LIKE ALL OF YA'LL!!!

what she said

[Cindy]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

I used to think I could not forgive or forget, but I can and have done both. With that being said. I would have told that nasty woman that I would forgive and be cool once she went back to her little group and told them the truth or I would go tell them myself right in front of her. Then I could begin forgiving and forgetting.

[Sabine]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

Forgive ? Maybe. Depending on the person / situation. Forget NEVER !
And in Cottun's situation, I would not trust that woman, I would be civil to her only because they have to work together in the future. But other then that, she just wouldn't excist for me.

[luvkidrock]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

You are a better person than me. I wouldn't have accepted her appology in private. I would have told her to tell the truth in front of the other nurses and then I would consider it. I work with some people like that. It is very uncomfortable to be around them

[Rubelishous]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

I'm with Luvkidrock. If she fesses up in front of the other people then I would accept her apology. However, after that I would treat her with professional courtesy. That was completely unacceptable behaviour

[cheft]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

.......I have found people like that who start probs and lie and fabricate so easily are the ones with a prob and usally will keep going so better to avoid them like the plague they really are!

I have had the misfortune of crossing pathes with someone just like this...The worst part of it was that I called this person my friend...I forgave them totally, but I can never forget the hurt I felt and the lies that were told about me...I wonder how they can look at themselves in the mirror knowing what they've done to hurt another person like they did.

So, I can totally forgive, but I can not forget. I believe that if you forget, you risk history repeating itself.


cottun, I'm sorry that someone could do that to you...I think she should have apologised to you publicly in front of the nurse that she bad mouthed you to. I wouldn't trust her as far as I could spit, and that's not far!

[luvs2eat]

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I'm with Luvkidrock. If she fesses up in front of the other people then I would accept her apology. However, after that I would treat her with professional courtesy. That was completely unacceptable behaviour

What they said.

[Nutsky]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

I would never trust her again and would be speak to her only when I had to at work. Not admitting that she lied and approaching you on the parking lot alone shows what a back stabber she is.

[Huffle]

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So, I can totally forgive, but I can not forget. I believe that if you forget, you risk history repeating itself.

My momma always told me Burn me once shame on you burn me twice shame on Me. So forgive but always remember who said what about you 'behind' your back.

Huffle

[souscheft]

Re: How easily do you forgive and forget? long..

I forgive as well... As far as forgetting- never.
I have and will go the whole nine yards for a friend.
But if that friend burns me, they can pretty much consider me done with them.

A public (NOT PRIVATE) apology in front of those that the offending words were spoken to was due to cottun. Anything less should not even be considered. Period.