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[Needers]

Gotta phone call at 2:30 a.m this morning on my EX HUbs cell phone, Im thinking "why is he calling me this late!!" So, I answered it and it was the Police. Im not putting two and two together yet. Theyre asking me questions, who am I, how long was the divorce, how often do I speak to him, bla bla. Then I asked WHY, and they said they couldnt tell me why they were calling. I asked "Is he dead?" and he gave the phone to another officer who stated that he had died in his apartment. I told them he had called here over a week ago stating he was moving on the message machine, and thats the last I heard. I told them that he got smashed in the head with a bat about 5 yrs ago and had seizures as a result of that. I had to give them Info and the cop was astonished when I offered his Social Security Number and knew it by heart. So, now my daughters flipping out because she refused to go see her dad because of the crap he pulled leaving her when she was 16. She states that hes just the sperm donar and her "Dad" is my DH.

[TexAnn]

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Oh Needers! I am so sorry to hear that! Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless you all.

[Needers]

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Even tho he was my EX Crazy Husband who made stories up, he was still my best friend. We would gab for hours and hours. We did alot of things together and we would laugh our butts off thinking about them. Yes, Ill miss my phone talks with him

[TexAnn]

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Well that is understandable. You shared many years together and had a family. I can only imagine what a shock this has been for you and DD. I am sending you unlimited ((((((HUGS)))))).

[nommie]

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Well that is understandable. You shared many years together and had a family. I can only imagine what a shock this has been for you and DD. I am sending you unlimited ((((((HUGS)))))).

Ditto! My first husband died in April and it was a real blow. We had not lived together in 35 some years. He was still my 1st and the father of my children.

[wellsms]

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Remember the good times

[TexAnn]

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Remember the good times

Yes, That is very good advice.

[floridagirly68]

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I am so sorry!!! That's the last thing you need with all you other problems going on. I'll keep you in my prayers.

[janabanana]

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Oh man...That's something you only see on TV... I hope your daughter won't beat herself up over their estrangement..

[Needers]

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My daughters O.K. She found out they found him in bed. The cops cant find his wallet anywhere, but did find his ATM card down the street laying on the ground. Last transaction was 2 nights ago at 11 p.m, which I think is strange, because he doesnt stay up that late. All his Xanax was gone, but that doesnt surprise me. He would take alot at a time, so he could sleep. With the head injury, he said it sounded like jet engines in his ears. I highly doubt that he overdoses, because of the fact he always took alot of pills. Could say hes a prescription drug expert, among other things. I didnt ask the cops if there were beers there. If he was drinking, then that certainly would have thrown him into a seizure. He just wouldnt learn about the drinking. I preached at him many a times about drinking and taking his seizure meds, the meds wont work with alcohol. He had one episode about 2 yrs back, where they had to life flight him to Toledo, and they didnt think he was going to make it. Think he would have learned

[beatlebette]

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I'm sorry for your sad news, Needers. I hope your dd isn't too hard on herself for being mad at him. Kids never understand the reasons for things adults do, especially their parents.

Do the police suspect criminal goings on? It's strange that they found his ATM card where they did. I hope they figure out what happened to him. Why did they go to his place to begin with?

[Sewcute]

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I am so sorry!!! Ex or not he was still a part of your life at one point, and you have a child together... I am so sorry!!!!! (((((((HHHHHHHHUUUUUUUUUGGGGGSSSSSSSSSSS)))))))))

[Needers]

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He has buddies checking on him. From what I understand, he wasnt heard from in a few days, so one friend went over and found him, but....called another person to come over and then theyre the ones who called 911. I dont why. Maybe the one guy had warrants for his arrest? I dont know how long the cops were there, but I know nobody would be going over there after 10, cops called me at 230 am, so im just wondering if his buddies stole all his stuff

[Cindy]

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You and your DD are in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*

[chickyp]

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So sorry for your loss. Even though he was an 'ex' you shared a part of your life with him.