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    just like a little kid. We had to make the decision to put down my dh's kitty. Abigail is 17 and she is unable to eat due her ongoing dental problems. And hand feeding and mushing of food is not working. We figure in one week she probably has lost between 5 to 10 lbs. She isn't even my cat and I feel so guilty. I just cannot justify putting $1000, into a 17 year old cats mouth. And they can't guarantee it would work. So, I am going to put her down tonite.

    I just feel so rotten about this decision.


    dragun

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    Re: Sitting here bawling....

    Awww, I am so sorry. That is one of the toughest decisions to make. But, in this case, it is the nicest decision you could make. That is a lot of weight for a cat to lose in such a quick time. And, when you have to make this decision, there is always a lot of guilt. But, please, you ARE doing the right thing.

    Hugs!!

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    • #3
      Re: Sitting here bawling....

      Thanks for the support. I know logicallly it is the best thing for her. I also made sure that I could stay with her to the end. I know it is pretty quick, but she needs someone to hold her.

      dragun

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      • #4
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        That is always so painful. We had to put my mom's 16 yr old lap dog to sleep a few months ago (they lived with us) and we all cried for days, so you have my heartfelt sympathy. You know you did the right thing but that doesn't keep it from hurting and leaving a void in your life, does it.

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        • #5
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          hugs are being sent your way. i hate when you have to make those decisions.
          SHEL

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          • #6
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            As I recently had to do this for my furboy I feel your pain. You did the right thing and thank you for loving the cat enough to let it go.

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              Our furbabies have to count on us to love them enough to know the difference between quality of life and unhappy quality cause it's so hard for us to decide to put them down. Your kitty knows you love him/her. Don't feel guilty... 17 years is a good long life.

              (((hugs)))
              "What fresh hell is this?" Dorothy Parker

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              • #8
                Re: Sitting here bawling....

                Thanks you all for the support! I have called dh and his mother and let them know and now I just have to explain to my dd. We had a pre-talk about what was going on with the kitty, but who knows how she is going to react.


                dragun

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                • #9
                  Re: Sitting here bawling....

                  Dragun,

                  I totally understand your feelings. I went through the same thing when my cat had diabetes and she couldn't keep her food down and was urinating and defecating on places other than the litterbox. She wasn't the same cat anymore. I talked to my vet about it and went in several times with her problems (towards the end) and told him what my feelings were. I was in so much anguish because I had had her for 15 years and in many ways, she was my best friend. I haven't even known a lot of people (except family) for that many years. My vet helped me to see that she wasn't "enjoying being a cat" anymore. He said that he agreed with my decision to put her down because she would go to a better place with dignity. I hated seeing my cat deteriorate the way she did. I wanted her to be around forever and be healthy. I know I made the right decision, but I still miss her. We now have two new cats. I love them. I didn't get them to replace my other cat. She was irreplacable, but they bring a little of that joy back that I get from having a cat or any pet in the house. So I guess my point is that if you are putting your cat out of its pain, you are helping him. BTW, I stayed with my cat in the room till the end. I wanted to be there for her. I'm glad to hear you will too. I didn't want to regret not doing that, as hard as it was. I'm sorry.

                  Jodi

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                  • #10
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                    Dragun, I'm soooo sorry but you know you are doing the best you can do. Hugs and prayers for you and your family. As you know I just put my dog down last week,so I know how you are feeling.
                    Lv&hugs
                    food gal

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                    • #11
                      Re: Sitting here bawling....

                      So very sorry to hear of your painful situation. Been there more times myself than I care to count or remember..........only with dogs. It's never, ever a happy decision, but it certainly can be a blessing for the poor pet if they are suffering or their health declines because of the lingering on. If only we could put human beings out of their misery (legally) like our pets.

                      Hugs, prayers and thoughts are with you and your family at this time of sorrow.

                      ~Kathy~
                      The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.

                      Faith is believing in advance what already makes sense in retrospect. O:-)

                      'Do not ask the Lord to Guide your Footsteps if you are not willing to move your Feet'

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                      • #12
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                        In 1985, we put down our 19 year old Siamese cat who had a stroke. It was the only time I ever saw dh sob..... It took us an eternity to get over than one. Prayers to you.
                        "WHEN FASCISM COMES TO AMERICA IT WILL BE WRAPPED IN THE FLAG AND CARRYING A CROSS." -SINCLAIR LEWIS

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                        • #13
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                          Don't feel bad about your decision. You're doing what's best for the kitty. She must be in a lot of pain. She's had a long life for a cat. Bless you for loving her enough to let her go. (((((dragun)))))
                          Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.

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                          • #14
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                            Very sorry - animals truly are a part of the family. We had to put our dalmation to sleep two years ago and it just broke my heart....he would have been 10 that year.

                            I hope the days and months ahead and your memories will mend your broken heart.

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                              Re: Sitting here bawling....

                              Please don't blame yourself, we had 2 dogs & 1 cat that all had problems and we spent thousands for operations and still they never got any better. Back & forth all the time to specialists, we did so much and still it just seemed it was their time to go. Whether you put out all the money & hope but that age, I really don't think it would have helped. It's just there time. We do so much for humans with health ins and still never saved my parents. Think about all the wonderful times you did have and enjoy those times.

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