Would you tell someone dh was doing bad

[muzette7]

Re: Would you tell someone dh was doing bad

So how do you know he is doing them? Have you personally seen him do it or just heard about it? I tend to keep out of other peoples business. If she cant see a tweaker under her nose then they both need help, or she is choosing to ignore it.

[TexAnn]

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I think I would leave it alone.
She will find out.
No need to get involved & get yourself set up to be hurt and lashed out at.
Unless it is a VERY close friend I think you should just stay out of it.

[wellsms]

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Wonder if you could go have lunch with her and tell her some of the signs that you saw in your husband using drugs that you remember now and did not relate to drugs then. Maybe she will relate and start thinking. I don't think I would just start saying her DH is doing drugs, you would just drive a wedge between you and her.

[nommie]

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I think I would leave it alone.
She will find out.
No need to get involved & get yourself set up to be hurt and lashed out at.
Unless it is a VERY close friend I think you should just stay out of it.

I agree!!!!!!!!

[tmaesk]

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Stella, you hit the nail on the head.

I used to be the person that would tell someone what their dh was doing no matter if they were a close friend or not, I felt like it was their right to know. I have been bit by that one big time. So, I will no longer do it. I told a cousin of mine that I saw her boyfriend driving this girls car and she was sitting by him. She called me a liar and it was a HUGE fight. I also told a friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her (I saw him making out with the girl) again, there was a HUGE fight and she believed him. She ended up with an STD and she is still with him. So, you see why I chose to stay out.

I had decided that I wasn't going to tell her. I saw him doing them, but it is his word against mine. I think that they live separate lives. I think that it will come out or he will stop.

[Stella]

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wow, I hit the nail on the head? look at me go

i think you need to find new friends lol

[Dickens]

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I had decided that I wasn't going to tell her. I saw him doing them, but it is his word against mine. I think that they live separate lives. I think that it will come out or he will stop.

Where were you when you "saw" him doing them? Was he doing them alone?

[EMail Queen]

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Does HE know that he was seen by you??????

I agree with others on this though - probably better off to leave it alone.
Just be there for support for her in the future - coz she'll need it.

But if you continue to have that nagging feeling about telling her - you could discuss with her this very same thing "I have a friend..............so would you tell her?"

And see what SHE says.
She might be so naive that she doesn't know the "signs" of drug abuse. Might be perfect time to clue her in.

Just a thought.